失序的欢愉:农村大龄未婚男性的性实践考察及思考

Joy out of Order:The Investigation and Pondering on Sexual Practice of Unmarried Men in Rural Areas

在婚姻挤压的背景下,大量农村大龄未婚男性无妻可娶。婚内性伴侣的缺位,导致他们不能通过合理合法的途径满足性需求,而是通过性犯罪、嫖娼和通奸等越轨行为释放性能量、追寻性欢愉。大龄未婚男性越轨的性实践打破并解构了农村社会的性秩序,导致了性的失序与失范。要推进农村社会乡风文明和有效治理,必须在尊重大龄未婚男性性需求的基础上,重建新的性秩序:一方面,要遵守和捍卫原有性秩序中的合理部分;另一方面,要疏导大龄未婚男性的性需求,宽容地理解婚姻与性行为的分离。同时,要有针对性地对他们开展性健康宣传教育。

In the context of marriage squeeze,large-scale older unmarried men in rural areas have no women to marry.The absence of sexual partners in marriage makes them unable to meet their sexual needs through reasonable and legal channels,but they release sexual energy and pursue sexual pleasure through deviant channels such as sexual crimes,prostitution and adultery.The deviant sexual practice of older unmarried men broke and deconstructed the marriage order in rural society.In order to promote rural social civilization and effective governance,we must rebuild a new sexual order on the basis of respecting the sexual needs of older unmarried men:on the one hand,we must observe and defend the reasonable part of the original sexual order;on the other hand,it is necessary to ease the sexual needs of older unmarried men and tolerantly understand the separation of marriage and sex.At the same time,it is necessary to carry out sexual health publicity and education for them.