古代婚姻风俗的特点与中国人的婚姻观念

The Features of Matrimonial Customs in Ancient China & The Chinese Mentality of Marriage

中国人恋爱、结婚、情欲、生子是一致的，而不是分离的；重婚礼，轻法律；主动求婚者低下，被追求才高尚，印记着“男不亲求，女不亲许”，相敬如宾是对性爱价值的否定；白头偕老是双方人身的终生占有；“男儿只怕找错行，女儿只怕嫁错郎”，妻子对丈夫的惰性依赖。

The Chinese love,marriage,sexual passion and child bea r ing are a unity,which can not be identified from each other.Wedding is stressed remarkably while statutes tend to be ignored.He who proposes on initiative is co n sidered being humble and the courted noble.As the saying goes“a man should not propose marriage by person,nor should a woman accept the proposal by herself.” “Husband and wife respecting each other like guests”is a hypocritical negation of the value of love. “Living to old age in conjugal bliss”ends up in a life long occupation of eac h other.“A man fears for finding an unsuitable trade and a w oman for marrying a poor husband”shows wife's passivity to and dependence on th e husband.