父母是儿童性别发育的启蒙者

Parents are primary instructors of their children of sexual distinction

除了阴阳人和生殖器官发育畸形者,正常孩子的性别谁都能分清。然而在现实生活中,却有男孩把自己看成是女孩,女孩又偏偏会认为自己是男孩,这种认错自我性身份的现象被称为性别同一性障碍;男大当婚,女大当嫁,男女婚配天经地义,可偏偏有那么一些男女非同性而不恋,为何?性学家称他们为性取向障碍。认得清白己的性别。

The author suggests that sex may be classified in concept as gene(hereditary)sex,physiolog- ical sex,brain-involved sex,cognitive(psychological)sex,sex-oriented sex and behavioral(social)sex. The former three categories of sex have their courses of development which,when impeded,will give rise to malformation,dysfunction or sexual psychological abnormality.The development of the latter three cate- gories of sex,when impeded,will lead to disturbances in sex identification,sex orientation and sex predilection(or sex behavior). Parents are the creators of early living environment and the primary educators of their children.They exert influence on their children's sex development chiefly through their dual sex and their relationships to each other and to their children.Hence,immediately after the birth of their children,the parents should provide the children with a proper environment of dual sex,exert an influence of dual sex,help them found an identified idol of the same sex of their own,and promote the formation of their idol of opposite sex for sexual love.The parents are the best persons to be the two idols of their children in early childhood.The parents' dual sex and the influences of dual sex are the most important factors influencing the sex develop- ment of their children. The author stresses the harmful factors affecting the founding of the children's idols and the remedial measures.Such factors are known to be single-parent family,abnormal sexual distinction of parents,imbal- ance of parents'influence of sex distinction,parents' poor relationships to each other and to their children and extensive influence of abnormal sexual distinction from people other than parents.