婚恋匹配中个性因素影响的研究

The effect of individuality on pairing of couples

我国国人的婚姻模式已越来越不能适应社会和文化的发展,为了实现现代人更加幸福、美满的恋爱和婚姻,本研究立意探索构建理想婚姻的性格因素匹配模式,为现代人提供科学、理性的选择配偶的建议。通过参阅大量国内外恋爱心理的文献和资料,在知名婚恋专家、心理学家指导下,本研究编制出一套性格商值测题。测题提取出两性交往中发挥重要作用的恋父(母)情感、性欲求能力、性格内外向、情感交流、适应能力、人生态度及生活情趣这些主要因素,试图分析个人在恋爱过程中的性格情感状态,找到一定的匹配规律。经过一定数量成功恋人和恩爱夫妻的测试,经分析表明两性交往中确实存在着性格成功匹配的相应模式,性格匹配的相似性原理和互补性原则往往在交往过程中发挥作用。本研究通过了解异性双方的性格特征,可以指导人们进行更科学的择偶,以促进现代人幸福婚姻的实现。

The marriage mode of Chinese people could not adapt to the development of modern society and culture. In order to make people have happy love and marriage, this study aims at constructing an ideal marriage pairing morde and providing rational and scientific suggestions for young people. This study produced a set of questions concerning personality quotient based on literatures about love psychology. Attempts were made to analyze th emotional state of lovers and seek for certain paring principles. After studying a certain number of successful lovers and couples, we found two principles, namely, the principles of similarity and compatibility play greater role in the communication between the lovers and couples. The result of this study supports the idea that the understanding of lovers＇ personality can be helpful in guiding the selection of their lovers and the construction of a happy marriage.