女同性恋者的婚姻和家庭给传统婚姻制度带来的挑战

Lesbian Women's Marriages and Families:A Challenge to the Traditional Marriage System

男同性恋者的婚姻在近些年来的报道和研究中比较受关注,但关于女同性恋者的婚姻状态的研究却非常少,而女同性恋者的婚姻相对男同性恋者有着明显的差异,因而不能一概而论。本文通过网上参与式观察的方式,考察了国内女同性恋者的婚姻状态。笔者选取了网上论坛中较为集中的三个焦点议题:形式婚姻、婚外恋和亲子关系,从女同性恋者所面临的婚姻压力和婚姻困境等现状出发进行分析,反思传统婚姻制度的局限性及其对同性恋伴侣关系的不兼容性。最后提出建议,希望通过渐进方式提升大众意识,在此基础上对传统婚姻制度进行修订,力图使所涉及到的各方都得到一个较为满意的身份和生活保障。

Gay marriages have attracted attention in reports and studies in recent years,but there are very few studies of lesbian marriages.Lesbian marriages significantly differ from those among gay men and the two should not be put into the same category.With the method of Internet participation observation,this paper examines the Chinese lesbian women's marriages and families.The author selected three focal topics in the Internet forums: marriage in form only,extramarital affairs,and parent-child relationships.The analysis was around the reality of the marriage-related pressures and dilemmas experienced by the lesbians.The reflection was about the limitations of the traditional marriage system and its expulsion of the homosexual partnership.Finally,a proposal was advanced that we should gradually raise people's awareness so that it would be possible to have the traditional marriage system revised so that all parties involved would enjoy a satisfying identity and life security.