君子之道,以和为贵——从《红楼梦》“玫瑰露茯苓霜事件”看中国人的人际思维

Harmonious Thought in Inter-Personal Communication:Taking an Event in A Dream of the Red Mansions as an Example

"尚和""中庸"是中国人人际思维的特点,这种特点在人际冲突的处理中体现得尤为明显。《红楼梦》第六十回里的"玫瑰露茯苓霜事件"是一个典型的人际冲突事件,事件的"圆满"解决折射了中国人的人际思维方式,即"中庸"之道。从社会心理学的视角对其进行分析,中庸人际思维方式的特点可见一斑。

Harmony and golden mean are always the features of Chinese inter - personal communications, especially in conflicts. The event of ＂Rose Dew and Poria Cream＂ in the 60th Chapter in the novel A Dream of the Red Mansions is a typical conflict in inter - personal communication. The result of the conflict reflects Chinese thought of golden mean. Analyzed from the perspective of social psychology, we can see the features of golden mean thought in communication.