爱的权衡:在付出与索取中保持或恢复心理衡平感

Trade-off in Love:To Maintain or Restore Psychological Equity in the Process of Give and Take Among Romantic Partners

在爱情关系中,如何付出和索取才对自身和关系发展有利,这是爱情关系双方和心理学家都想知道的问题。根据社会交换理论和相互依赖理论,情侣之间的付出和索取可以被称之为爱情交换,已有大量研究探讨了它的基本心理过程。近年来,心理学家提出新的理论,用以解释爱情交换的复杂的心理机制。他们的观点得到实证研究的支持。所有这些理论和研究结果,为论述爱情交换的基本原则、特点以及影响因素提供了丰富证据。未来研究可以更多地关注爱情交换过程中情感的作用,以及自动化过程和有控制的过程。

Both lovers and psychologists are interested in how people give and take is good for their personal and relationship well-being in romantic relationships. Based on early classic theories such as social exchange and interdependence theory, give and take among romantic partners can be defined as romantic exchange, and a substantial number of studies have been conducted to explore its basic psychological processes. In recent years, psychologists proposed a new theory to explain the complicated psychological mechanisms of romantic exchange and this theory was supported by empirical research. All these theories and research findings provide strong evidences for us to understand the underlying principles, characteristics and influential factors of romantic exchange. Future studies can pay more attention to the role of emotion and the automatic and controlled process in romantic exchange.