我们应当如何“相爱”——论爱的“合一性”

How Should We “Love Each Other”——the Unity of Love

爱不是个体和自身的游戏,而是爱的主体与爱的对象相互确证的关系。合一性是爱的本质特性之一,给予和付出是实现爱的合一性的重要途径。在爱的给予中,爱的主体在抛舍掉纯粹自我的单一性和片面性的同时,还需保持必要和适度的自由与独立。

Love is not a game of the individual and one＇s own, but the relationship between the subject and object of love. Unity is one of the essential characteristics of love, giving is an important way of achieving the unity of love. In the giving of love, the subject of love abandon the oneness and one-sidedness of the pure self, and at the same time, also need to maintain the necessary and an appropriate freedom and independence.