从面子互动看中国现代婆媳关系管理——以《双面胶》为文本进行解读

Managing Relationship between Modern Chinese Mother-in-law and Daughter-in-law from the Respective of Face Interaction: Viewing and Analyzing from Pop Drama "Double Faced Adhesive Tape"

在中国社会的人际交往中,面子意味着自身在他人心智中占据的形象和分量,是个人判断其被他人接纳和重视程度的重要指标。婆媳关系不仅是面子互动的活跃场所,也是面子问题层出不穷的敏感地带。通过分析热播剧《双面胶》中的情节和人物对话,可以窥见面子心理的本质内涵及其在婆媳关系管理中的重要性。固然,婆媳在文化、价值观念、生活方式上的差异无疑是矛盾冲突的原因所在,但面子互动的失败在放大婆媳差异、激发婆媳矛盾中起了推波助澜的作用。而能否理解面子的符号意义;能否迎合对方的面子需求;能否换位思考,避免伤人面子;能否公正客观,平衡婆媳面子是影响婆媳间面子互动成功与否的主要因素。

In Chinese society, ＂face＂ represents your image and importance that occupy other people＇s mind, and the critical index of judging your acceptance and attention by others. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not only an active place for face interaction, but also sensitive area full of face-related problems. Through the analysis of plots and conversations of pop drama ＂double faced adhesive tape＂, which reflects modern relations between mother and wife, it is easy to discover the essence of face psychology and its importance in managing relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then concluding the effect and mechanism of face interaction and summarizing main factors deciding the success of face interac-tion between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Moreover, they are main factors deciding the success of face interaction be-tween mother-in-law and daughter-in-law which can we understand the symbolic significance of the face, and can you meet each other＇s face needs, and can we be empathy to avoid wounding the face, and can we be ability to fairly and objectively balance the two sides face.