差异性关系的建构:“有朋自远方来”何以会“不亦乐乎”

Construction of Different Relationships:Why Does a Friend from Afar Make Us Feel Happy

"有朋自远方来"之所以会让人"不亦乐乎",是由于它重新接续起我与朋友之间由于距离遥远而逐渐疏离甚至中断的关系,从而使自我与他人又重新回到关系之中,而且这种关系由于是与"自远方来"的朋友之间的关系,因此与身边朋友之间的关系有所不同,它是一种差异性而非同一性的关系。而这种差异性的关系恰恰为自我成仁提供了前提条件。

In fact,we ＂feel happy＂ when ＂a friend comes from afar＂ just because we reestablish relationship with the friend,who once alienates us.The relationship even breaks off and restores again as before.The new relationship with the friend from afar is different from the relationship with the friend along with us in that it is different relationship but not constant one.That difference provides the precondition for oneself to become benevolence.