探讨逆反期的孩子

A Discussion about Rebellious-Period Children

孩子成长中逆反期有四个阶段：第一个阶段：幼儿期的5～6岁，这个阶段是孩子个性的萌芽阶段。第二个阶段：10～12岁，小学生4。5年级阶段就表现出来，也是孩子个性开始明显表现的时期和青春早期。第三阶段：13．15岁，初中学生初一、初二年级，这一阶段是逆反期表现最为突出的时期，青春发育期，也是家长、教师教育孩子最为头疼的时期，这一时期也是孩子，生格类型真正形成的时期。第四阶段：17-18岁，高中阶段高一、高二年级段，这时孩子的性格基本定型，自我发展、自我完善有明显的分歧。孩子成长各个逆反期的引导：1）读懂孩子的心理需求：与孩子沟通、理解孩子尊重孩子。2）渎懂孩子各逆反期的症状：多给孩子一片空间。3）增强孩子的心理承受能力：多用语言和行为鼓励、支撑孩子的勤奋、努力、吃苦精神。

There are 4 stages in rebellious period of children＇s growing： Stage 1： Preschool period, children are about 5 or 6 years old. This stage is in infancy of children＇s character; Stage 2： This stage would be presented when children are from grade 4 to grade 5 in elementary school. In this stage, they are from 10 to 12 yearn of age, and this stage is not only the early adolescence, but also the beginning period of the obvious appearing on children＇s character. Stage 3： Children are in the age of 13 to 15 and grade 1 to grade 2 in junior high school. This stage is the adolescence period and the most distinct period of the rebellious period, also is the most difficult period for parents and teacher doing a educa- tion to their children. And this period is the real formation of children＇s character as well. Stage 4： Children are about 17 or 18 years old and grade 1 to grade 2 in senior high school. In this stage, generally speaking, the character of children have been set up already, and there is an evident divergence between their self-development and self-improvement. The guidance of each stage through children growing： 1） Understanding the mental necessary of children： We＇d better communicate with children, understand them and respect them. 2） Understanding the symptom of children＇s rebellious peri-od： We should give the children more pieces of space. 3） Improving the psychological enduring capacity of chil- dren： we should do our utmost in encouraging children to be dili- gent, studious and hardworking by language and action.