功利婚恋观的价值逻辑及现实困境

Value Logic of Utilitarian Notion of Love and Marriage and Its Realistic Difficulties

在消费社会的语境下,当代青年男女对待生活和爱情的态度愈来愈现实和功利,尤其是对金钱和物质的崇尚前所未有。造成这一现象的原因除了有时代和社会的现实因素外,深层次根源在于,个体意义上的大众在"消费"观念的刺激和诱导之下,将金钱视为了衡量人生成功和幸福的唯一依据,混淆了手段和目的的关系。进而,功利的婚姻、世俗的考量战胜了理想的爱情,以至于真正的幸福离我们越来越远。而以爱情为基础婚恋共识的达成对克服功利婚恋观有着积极的意义。

In the context of consumer society,the young people's notion of love and marriage has become increasingly realistic and utilitarian. And they worship money more than ever before. Besides some realistic factors,the root reason for this phenomenon lies in the fact that motivated and induced by the concept of consumption,the mass regard money as the only standard to measure success and happiness,thus confusing the method and destination. Furthermore,utilitarian marriage and secular concept overcome ideal love so that real happiness gets away from us far and far. The consensus that marriage should be based on love will be of positive significance to overcome the utilitarian notion of love and marriage.