有钱就有好女儿──越南新娘对“贴补娘家”行为的解释

Money Buys Good Daughters: Vietnamese Brides' Home Remittances

在选择跨国婚姻和移民时,女性常常需要重塑她们的家庭关系和责任。文章通过对越南新娘的访谈,分析了跨国新娘对女儿责任和义务的不同观点和看法。研究发现,对越南新娘"贴补娘家"的行为大致可以做出三种解释:一是出于"补偿"的心理,即由于不能继续在父母身边照顾他们而感到愧疚,因此希望通过金钱来补偿娘家;二是出于"身份地位"的考虑,认为"贴补娘家"不仅可以显示自己的经济能力,同时也是提高自己在娘家地位的一种方式;三是出于"面子"的考虑,把"寄钱回娘家"与面子问题相提并论。研究表明,女性的跨国婚姻和移民是一个性别化的过程,越南新娘"贴补娘家"的行为从一个侧面反映出性别化观念如何影响了她们对于家庭关系和责任的重塑。

Women, when they choose to immigrate and marry abroad, often reconstruct their family relationships and familial duty. This paper examines different views and opinions of daughters＇ responsibilities and duties based on the interviews with Vietnamese brides. The results suggest that there are three explanations of why Vietnamese brides send home remittances. One is out of their sentiment of compensating for their regret of being absent from their maternal home and not being able to take care of their parents. The second rea- son is out of their consideration that by sending remittances, they can demonstrate their status and economic capability hoping to raise their status in their maternal homes. The third reason relates to their understanding of ＂face＂ or reputation of filial piety which they demonstrate through home remittances. This study shows that women＇s immigration and cross-border marriage are a gendered process whereby Vietnamese brides＇ understanding of gender roles influences them to send home remittances and reconstruct their family rela- tionships and responsibilities.