大学生人际交往矛盾心理分析与能力培养

Psychoanalysis and Ability Training of College students' interpersonal Communication

大学生的人际交往有着信息交流、心理保健、促进自身成长和人际协调等功能。但是在现实中大学生的人际交往存在多种多样的矛盾心理,主要有自我封闭的孤独感与强烈交往需要之间的矛盾、渴望了解他人却又习惯以自我为中心的矛盾、强烈的自尊心与自卑之间的矛盾、过高的心理期待和较差的心理承受能力之间的矛盾、人际交往的现实性与虚拟化之间的矛盾和交往动机中的功利性和情感性并重等矛盾心理。因此笔者认为针对这些矛盾分可以别从培养口头表达能力、人际融合能力和解决问题的能力来培养大学生人际交往的能力。

College students＂ interpersonal interaction can make information exchange, keep mental h e a l th , promote the growth and improve interpersonal coordination. But in the reality there exists a variety of students＂ interpersonal ambivalence, which is manifested by： the conflict between loneliness with self-sealing and strong desire to communicate with others, self-centeredness and eager to get to know others, strong self-respect and inferiority, high psychological expectation and poor psychological ability, interpersonal conflict between the reality and virtualization, and between the utilitarianism and emotionality in the interactive motivations. So the author thinks that to solve the conflict the college can improve the oral communication ability, interpersonal ability and problem solving skills to cultivate college students＂ communication ability.