平衡木上的华北父母:日常表现、实践逻辑与意外后果——基于农民人生价值的视角

Parents in North China on the Balance Beam:Daily Performance,Practical Logic and Unexpected Consequences

分田单干以来,尤其是随着打工经济的兴起和婚姻市场竞争的加剧,华北父母彻底沦为了弱势一代,一方面,"为了下一代"(主要指儿子),千方百计地省吃俭用来建高楼、娶新人、带孙子、做家务,少生病;另一方面,为了保持"一碗水端平",又不得不忍辱负重地在儿子媳妇间闪转腾挪,努力维持着跷跷板的平衡。在追求传宗接代的本体性价值的同时,面子竞争这一社会性价值进一步加剧了代际剥削强度,加之形式公平家庭理念指导下,每一位华北父母都是优秀而沉重的家庭政治家,操作稍有不当,自身就可能落入代际剥削、养老困境、人生价值危机的公平陷阱。

With the rise of the working economy and the intensification of the marital market competition, par- ents in North China are completely reduced to a weak generation. On one hand, ＂for the sake of raising the next generation＂ （ mainly referring to the son）, they do everything possible to live frugally. On the other hand, in order to treat the sons equally, they have to try their best by all possible means to maintain the balance between sons and daughters-in law. In pursuit of the ontological value of the lineage, the social value of face competition further exac- erbated the intensity of intergenerational exploitation. Under the guidance of the concept of fair family, every parent in North China is a good and heavy family politician. With improper manipulation, they may fall into the fair trap of the intergenerational exploitation, pension predicament, and the value of life.