选择性忽视:农村留守妇女的夫妻情感维系机制

Selective Inattention: The Maintaining Mechanism of Spouse Affection of Rural Left-behind Women

随着我国城市化进程的深入,大量农村劳动力进入城市,导致了农村半流动家庭的出现。离散化的生活,势必会对夫妻关系产生影响。面对丈夫的长期不在场,留守妇女如何维系夫妻情感和婚姻关系?通过对留守妇女日常生活的观察和深度访谈,发现选择性忽视是其情感维系的主要机制,包括强调经济、忽视情感,强调家庭、忽视个人,强调未来、忽视当下。其背后的根源有家本位的价值观、传统的性别分工观念以及女性自身的因素。留守妇女面对变化了的环境,调整心态和行为以维护夫妻情感和婚姻的稳定性,显示出其积极主动的一面。

With the development of the urbanization in our country,large rural surplus labor force pours into cities,lots of half-dynamic families appear. The separation of couples produces an effect on their relationship.Facing with the prolonged absence of their husbands,how do the left-behind women maintain their affection and marriage？ Through participant observation and in-depth interview,this article finds that the selective inattention is the main maintaining mechanism for the relationship between husband and wife,such as emphasizing economic and ignoring affection,emphasizing family and ignoring individual,emphasizing future and ignoring the present. The family-oriented value,traditional gender division of labour and the cause from women themselves are all the roots of selective inattention. Faced with the new circumstances,women change their mind and behaviors so as to maintain their spouse affection and marriage,which shows that the left-behind women are willing to take the initiative.