基于正面管教的亲子冲突话语模式及软着陆策略研究——以热播电视剧《虎妈猫爸》为例

The Parent-Adolescent Conflict Discourse Pattern and Soft Landing Strategy Based on Positive Discipline——A Case Study of the TV Series Tiger Mom Cat Dad

以正面管教理念为参照,探究2015年热播电视剧《虎妈猫爸》中亲子冲突话语模式及软着陆策略,发现:严厉型话语模式和娇纵型话语模式容易造成子女不良行为后果,而正面管教型话语模式则有利于化解亲子冲突,培养子女的社会责任感。在如何接纳负面情绪方面,父母化解冲突的要点不仅在于表达"你怎么了",而且在于说"我觉得你怎么样";在如何听子女才会说方面,父母宜少"说"多"听",进行积极暂停和陪伴式倾听;在如何改善子女不良行为方面,针对子女寻求过度关注、寻求权力、报复和自暴自弃四种错误行为目的,父母宜少说"不"多说"好",鼓励多于批评,采用建设性行为话语、有限制选择的话语和积极暂停话语策略。

This article explored the parent-adolescent conflict discourse pattern and the relative soft landing strategy in the hit TV series Tiger Mom Cat Dad,finding out that harsh or pampering language is more likely to result in children’s bad behavior while the positive discipline discourse pattern is conducive to parent-adolescent conflict resolution and children’s social responsibility cultivation.Therefore,in the aspect of children’s negative emotion acceptance,the parents should use more"I"than"you"sentences,such as"I know you feel bad,but…"instead of"You…";in order to encourage children to speak out their thoughts,the parents should"listen"more than"speak"with positive pause and closet listening;to improve children’s bad behavior,parents should speak more"OK"than"No"to encourage rather than criticize,applying the discourse strategies such as suggesting constructive behavior,supplying limited options,pause positively and so on with regard to children’s 4 false behavior intentions:seeking excessive attention,seeking power,revenge and self-abandonment.