亲密关系中“因爱生恨”的原理与化解——基于阳明心学视角

"Hate Deriving from Love Affairs"in the Relationship of Intimacy:Principles and Solutions Based on the Perspective of Yangming Mentality Philosophy

所谓的“因爱生恨”如何形成?基于对大学生、青年夫妻、离婚人士的访谈及相关文献的研究发现,并非真正的“爱”产生了恨,而是“爱情”中的私欲产生了恨。本文基于阳明心学视角对“因爱生恨”原理进行讨论,认为阳明心学相关理论对当下中国人的婚恋实践有指导意义,也为当下婚恋中的“因爱生恨”提供了化解路径。

"Hate deriving from love affairs"is a common topic,but there is controversy on how it occurs.Based on interviews with college undergraduates,young couples and divorced people as well relevant literature,it is found that it is not"love"that results in"hate"in a real sense but the selfish desire in"love affairs".Based on the Yangming Mentality Philosophy this paper attempts to provide solutions for the so-called"hate deriving from love"in love affairs including dating and marriage.