控制型教养方式:历史演进、生成逻辑与破解路径

Controlling Parenting Style:Historicalevolution,Generative Logic and Crack Path

控制型教养式是以父母需要为中心、以监控或专制的方式进行的父母教养方式。它具体分为行为控制和心理控制两种形式,频繁和过强的心理控制会严重影响子女的心理健康和发展。中国的控制型教养经历了封建社会时期“全方位”的行为和心理控制阶段,发展至今呈现出以“学业倾注”为特征的高投入高控制行为,它是一种极具中国特色的社会化教养方式,其背后的生成逻辑是传统孝道的文化基因、集体权威的生长土壤以及“反哺”交换的利益诉求三重影响下的结果,而破解控制型教养方式的关键在于提供社会安全感和加强儿童平权思想文化的引领。

Controlling parenting is a kind of parenting that is centered on the needs of parents and carried out in a supervisory or authoritarian way.It is specifically divided into two forms:Behavioral control and psychological control.Frequent and excessive psychological control will seriously affect the children s mental health and development.The controlling parenting in China has experienced the stage of“all-round”behavior and psychological control in the feudal society,and has developed to present the high input and high control behavior characterized by“academic devotion”.It is a socialized upbringing with Chinese characteristics.The logic behind it is the result of the triple influence of the cultural gene of traditional filial piety,the cultural soil of collective authority and the interest appeal of“reciprocating feeding”exchange.The key to break the controlling parenting style is to provide social security and strengthen the ideological and cultural guidance on children s equal rights.