异性交往质性研究——从对异性同伴交往的理解谈女大学生异性交往困扰经历

A Qualitative Study of Heterosexual Intercourse——Discussion on the Experience of Female College Students in Heterosexual Communication from the Understanding of Heterosexual Peer Communication

以往研究较少独立关注异性交往,而是将其视作人际交往的某一维度,且较少针对性地关注女性大学生群体的异性交往。本研究以女大学生为研究对象,通过半结构式个体访谈了解女大学生与异性朋友交往的经验、经历,分析其常见困惑及应对措施,结果呈现采取描述性方式,以求对于女大学生异性交往相关问题有较完整的了解,对其心路历程进行更加深入的挖掘,体现心理学研究的人文关怀,意图在关于“人际交往”相关问题泛滥的量化研究中脱颖而出,带来令人耳目一新的研究结果。结果表明,女大学生的异性同伴多为生活有交集的同龄人,且对方往往幽默、开朗,日常相处以娱乐活动居多,聊天话题会依据关系亲疏围绕个人生活或社会事件展开,呈现“越亲密,越深入,越个人化”的特征。异性同伴的交往特征体现为:有边界感,不那么交心却很轻松快乐。其中关于异性交往困扰经历部分的访谈结果显示,困扰主要可以概括为由对方、自身,以及外界评价三个方面导致。伴随而来的影响可能会带来负面情绪,但通常不具有持续性,会在某种程度上影响双方关系,以及个人未来交友观念。而在对待困扰的看法及应对措施上,女大学生倾向于从自身找问题,改变自己的态度或行为。

Previous studies have focused less on heterosexual communication independently,but as a dimension of interpersonal communication,and few studies have focused on heterosexual intercourse in female college students.This study takes female college students as the research object,through semi-structured individual interviews to understand the experience and experience of female college students and friends of the opposite sex,analyze their common confusion and countermeasures,and present a descriptive approach,in order to have a more complete understanding of the problems related to heterosexual communication of female college students,dig deeper into their mental journey,reflect the humanistic care of psychological research,and intend to stand out in the quantitative research on the proliferation of"interpersonal communication"related problems,and bring refreshing research results.The results show that the heterosexual peers of female college students are mostly peers with intersection in life,and the other party is often humorous and cheerful,and the daily relationship is mostly entertaining,and the chat topics will be based on personal life or social events according to the relationship and distance,showing the characteristics of"the more intimate,deeper and more personal".The communication characteristics of peers of the opposite sex are reflected in:there is a sense of boundaries,not so communicative but very relaxed and happy.The results of the interview on the experience of heterosexual communication problems show that the troubles can be summarized by the other party,themselves,and external evaluations.The accompanying effects may bring negative emotions,but they are usually not persistent and will affect the relationship and the individual's future notions of friendship to some extent.In terms of their views on problems and countermeasures,female college students tend to find problems from themselves and change their attitudes or behaviors.