情绪化体罚:城市新中产母职的情感工作困境

Emotional Corporal Punishment: Motherhood’s EmotionalWork Dilemma of the New Urban Middle Class

在科学养育的语境下,体罚已成为城市新中产养育实践的禁忌。尽管新中产阶层的母亲对体罚普遍持否定态度,并对代际传承有一定的防范意识,这使得由慢性环境压力源引起的体罚大致可控;但由急性情境压力源引发的情绪化体罚仍然时有发生,而且难以自控。情感工作是密集母职的重要组成部分,面对情绪化体罚,母亲既要关注自身作为独立个体的情感权利,又要顾及被粗暴对待后需要安抚的儿童。在这样的情境中,母亲常常陷入消极挣扎的情感体验中,导致母职的情感活动呈现矛盾重重的实践困境。

In the context of scientific parenting,corporal punishment has gradually become a taboo in the parenting practice of the new middle class in cities.However,field investigation found out that corporal punishment is still unavoidable in the process of parenting,and sometimes occurs.The reason is that the negative cognition of corporal punishment and the awareness of preventing its intergenerational inheritance make corporal punishment caused by chronic environmental stressors seem controllable for the new middle class mothers with educated consciousness.But emotional corporal punishment,triggered by acute situational stressors often occurs uncontrollably.Emotional work is an important component of intensive motherhood.Faced with emotional corporal punishment,mothers need to pay attention to their emotional rights as independent individuals,as well as to the children who need to be comforted after being subjected to rough treatment.As a result,mothers often fall into a negative emotional experience of struggle,which makes the emotional work of mothers present a practical dilemma of contradictions.